Baby Ryan

I got such sad news about my new nephew Ryan. My little sister Laura delivered him at 22 weeks and he lived for an hour and she and Katie got to hold him and be with him and take some photographs. I was in total shock to get this very sad news and it has affected me deeply. Having lost my first child, Matthew,  also I would think I would know what to say to her but I find that it is the total opposite. Because of my own loss I know there is nothing to say.
She has shared a beautiful photo of her precious angle but out of respect to her and Katie I will not add it to my post but will keep it to cherish it on my own.
Im so sorry to know of another mother who must join this "club" that no one really wants to join. Those of us who have lost our babies.... She has a tough road ahead of her, all the firsts are difficult to bear but even for me 15 years later there are still those days that are hard to get through.

A Birth Healing Blessing

Blessed sister, beautiful one
with broken wings.
Your journey is a difficult one
that no mother should have to endure.
Your path is steep, rocky and slippery
and your tender heart is in need of gentle healing.

Breathe deeply and know that you are loved.
You are not alone,
though at times, you will feel like a
desolate island of grief
untouchable
distant.
Close your eyes.
Seek the wisdom of women who have walked this well-worn path before you,
before,
and before,
and before you yourself were born.
These beautiful ones
with eyes like yours
have shared your pain, and
weathered the storms of loss.

You are not alone (breathe in)
You will go on (breathe out)
Your wings will mend (breathe in)
You are loved (breathe out)

~ Mary Burgess
Author, Mending Invisible Wings,